Yes, without an argument, Love is life and it’s extremely important. It is the only way to true happiness. But as strong and wonderful Love is, it is not enough to sustain a relationship or marriage. It is not enough to make two people live together forever. Are you asking why…? OK… Think about it… You’ve seen and heard people who said they love each other dearly but yet couldn’t live with each other, get along or get fulfilled together.
You will hear such people say, “I love my spouse, I can’t do without my spouse and my spouse love me and can’t do without me. But still, things are not right or fine for them. Things are not going the way they expect. There is Love but it seems not enough. They try harder but nothing change. They are tired and ask why? Why can’t it work…?
A lot of relationships and marriages experience this all around the world today. I experienced it as well and probably you’re experiencing it now. Love alone cannot make it work. You need to get that straight. It just can’t.
… Love is not enough but it is the rock on which all other things stands.
Three keys are needed to support and make the love you have for your spouse to grow better and make you fulfil. These keys will help build your relationship or marriage, establish it and make it colourful. These keys cannot work without love and love cannot work without them. Do you want to know them… yeah… me too, they are:
Relax…. These are words we know and are familiar with but as common as you might view them, they are the things that will give meaning and beauty to your relationship. Here is how important they are to you…..
Wisdom. It is the ability to think and act using knowledge, experience, understanding, common sense and insight. It’s also the capacity of judging rightly in matters relating to life and conduct. As much as love is needed, it is by Wisdom your relationship can be built. It is what makes you mature to deal with situations. Those situations giving you headache is still around you because of lack of Wisdom.
… Wisdom gives you the ability to think and act rightly. It gives you the right sense to everything.
Understanding. This is the ability to understand something. The sympathetic awareness and tolerance for other people. The ability to share the feelings of others and also forgive. It is through understanding that your relationship can be established. Even though you love each other genuinely, you will always find fault in your partner because of lack of understanding.
… Understanding is like a wall that guides your heart and mind from negative thoughts towards the other person.
… Are you still with me… OK, finally…
Knowledge. This is the awareness or understanding of someone or something such as facts, information, description or skills which is acquired through experience or education by perceiving, discovery or learning. For you to have a treasure filled relationship, you need knowledge. Whatever you don’t have a knowledge of, you can’t do. You need to have full knowledge of each other. you’ve got to know every bits of each others life. “From wants to needs, way of life, beliefs, goals and aspirations. You need to perceive it, discover it, learn it and both share it with each other.
… All these are the true way to find fulfilment in relationship and marriage.
I’m sure you had a good time reading this… me too. Thanks.