Taking people for granted

I was about entering my compound when I say my neighbor talking to herself, angry and sad. I wanted to go my way because it was late and I was tired but then I saw the need for to talk with someone. I walked to her and asked… what happened? Then she opened her mouth and started telling me about all she’s going through, how people are taking her for granted, how they are looking down on her, how they are treating her as if she was nothing… She said, despite all that, I keep my best attitude towards them. Now she’s tired and fed up. She then asked me, what have I done to deserve such treatment from people, with bitterness of heart she said, God why?

For the next 30mins I was there listening attentively to her. I allowed her to pour out those things that has been a heavy burden on her heart, then I said…. Ma’am, you don’t have to let people dictate your happiness. I told her that… she doesn’t need to change her good attitude towards life because of the inability of people to put there own life together.

… Every man will get the reward of his actions, be it good or bad.

I told her to take heart and be strong that things will get better.

… Good attitude towards life attracts good things and bad attitude towards life does the opposite.

I believe you can agree with me that this kind of issue is happening around us all. Why do human treat fellow human as nothing? Why do people take people for granted? This has been the cause of many suicide today. It has make some people take terrible decisions that affects them and everyone around them.

When you take people for granted, look down on them or treat them as trash, this is what you’re doing to them…

  • you’re killing them slowly from the inside
  • you’re taking away there self esteem and joy
  • you’re making them feel they are not needed and there absence can not be noticed
  • you’re pushing them to a place of hopelessness and helplessness.

Believe me, not everyone have the strength to withstand all that. Not everyone is surrounded by yet another set of people that are good who can encourage them to see the good and not the bad. Some people believe it is better for them to die than live and out of frustration they commit suicide. Some of the suicide cases we see are not totally suicide but murder. Fellow humans frustrated life out of these people.

… More than ever before we should speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, judge fairly and defend the right of the poor and needy.

Whatever good life or things you have today, remember you are just privileged, it might as well be another person in your place. Let us feel each others pain, be kind to people and together move our community forward.

… Whatever good we do today will speak for us tomorrow.

It’s been a while but I’m glad you and I could spend time together once again.

Thanks and leave your comments below.



Author: Rotimi Elijah

Rotimi Elijah likes to motivate and inspire people. He likes to be among happy people who loves unconditionally. He believes that love is the basis to true happiness.

64 thoughts on “Taking people for granted”

  1. Many times people use others for their own purposes. Those are mean, selfish individuals. Borrow a rake and forget to return it. Use the house phone and call long distance without offering to pay. Take a huge portion of food at a meal and not leave enough that everyone has a portion. Self-centeredness is a disease worthy to be punished.

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  2. I honestly believe God places us in others’ lives exactly when each needs the other. You have wisdom to impart and your neighbor sorely needed your wisdom at that moment. You could have chosen to ignore her but you chose to help. Thank you too for visiting my blog!

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  3. I’m so glad you posted this! We all need to be reminded to treat others as we want to be treated. I have someone in my life like this lady you spoke with – he constantly feels that others are putting him down and treating him like garbage. And you are right. Not everyone can ignore the negativity. They need people like you in their lives to listen, to speak life and hope into them. May we all do the same!!

    And by the way, thank you for stopping by my blog and for following. What a blessing!

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  4. This is so stirring. I think it is important we don’t let other people sap away our vitality and enthusiasm for life with their negative energy. My mum has always told me to imagine a mirror being placed in front of these people, so their negativity cannot reach us, and at the same time their bad feeling only reflects itself back at themselves, so they will hopefully learn to have a better attitude towards other people. Just a thought – great post! 🙂

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  5. it is the kind of post which was heavily needed. we need to understand that we are here, in these beautiful universe to play our roles. we should not be more attached or connected to people around us. they are playing their roles and we ours.

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  6. Thanks for sharing this with the world sir. It’s really helpful. No one likes to be taken for granted and I don’t know why people choose to take a fellow human for granted at the slightest chance. I just don’t understand. Thank you, Mr. Rotimi. Have a wonderful night.

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  7. Love your posts so much! You were kind and patient to listen to your neighbour and you must have really helped her vent it out. You’ve reminded me to be more patient and kind whenever I can! 🌷

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    1. Yes Arbie. Being patient and kind with people can do wonders even though it’s little. Listening to people can solve problems we thought to be huge sometimes.

      Thanks Arbie. I love your new commitment… “patient and kind”. 👍 Enjoy the rest of the day.


  8. Everyone needs someone that’ll take the time to listen to their problems! Showing appreciation whether it be a grand gesture or a simply acknowledgement can do wonders, but alas we live in a world where most people are often overlooked.

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  9. You truly have one of the most beautiful hearts I’ve seen in a long time. Kindness is a gift, and you gave that woman the greatest gift of all, “Listening.”
    Some of us survived the cruelty of others words and actions…That has given us inner strength and guidance. It has also given us empathy towards other men & women who have suffered dearly for actions of today’s world.
    God Bless You!!!

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  10. So true. Everyone is fighting a battle, some are better at hiding it than others. Just because I am doing well in my battle, or you in yours, doesn’t mean everyone else is doing well in theirs. There are times when my battle seems so overwhelming, I am so tired of fighting. I see little hope, or no hope, of victory and I want to quit it all…I’ve come very close to doing so. I made a decision to hold one for one more day. I have survived 100% of the worst days of my life! That is an incredible average, is it not? I survived. You survived. We can all survive…and hopefully, we can all thrive. Help someone you see is hurting. Wouldn’t you like help when you are hurting? You did a great kindness for that lady. It may give her hope to hold on, for one more day.

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