7 Basics of a Happy Marriage

It’s good to be back, it’s been a while and I miss you all. Today I’m asking a question… why do people get married? I believe people get married for different reasons, some do to find fulfilment, some to find companionship, some to build a family or future. I can go on and on as there are numerous reasons why people get married from tribes and culture to religion and all that.

But in all of this one thing is certain… Happiness. No matter what the reason is everyone wants to be happy in marriage. If you are not married yet, I believe you’re planning to have a happy marriage and if you are I believe you’d like it to remain a happy one.

… Without happiness, marriage can not be enjoyable. Lack of happiness can be destructive in marriage.

Here are 7 basics of a happy marriage that brings out the best in every marriages. Some of these points you know but don’t be too familiar, look at them closely and think about them.

  • Respect. Acknowledge each others roles in the marriage. Recognize and appreciate each others efforts. No matter how tempted you may be, don’t be quick to point out the negatives in your partner. Focus instead on the good. The positive.

  • Pay attention to your partner. Listen to your partner when they speak. Acknowledge them if they have a new look or went out of their way to do something different. A simple smile will go a long way.
  • Give each other some privacy. Don’t interfere too much in every little thing your partner does. This could cause uncalled for arguments that will ultimately bring stress into the marriage.
  • Avoid very close relationships with the opposite sex. Behavior such as flirting can create mistrust and lead your partner to feel insecure. This could strain the marriage.

… Consider your spouse in every decision you make, because every decision you make will impact them in some ways .

  • Be positive and focus on the future. As much as it is important to learn from past mistakes, don’t dwell on the mistakes. Say kind and positive uplifting words to your partner. Constantly pointing out the weaknesses in your partner and keeping a record of all that they did wrong in days past can lead to low self esteem and cause strain in the marital relationship.

  • Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Being together at all times and knowing each other too much can create irritation and tension. Spending some time apart gives both partners a chance to miss each other’s company and presence and value what they have. It is important of course to not spend too much time apart.
  • Don’t be selfish. Always endeavor to do more for your partner as opposed to always expecting them to always be the more giving one. Be supportive and helpful to each other. Always putting the other person’s needs and feelings into consideration.

Marriage is a beautiful thing. it’s a thing of joy. It’s meant to be enjoyed and not endured. If you are enduring your marriage, something is definitely wrong. Put yourself together and make things right again. If you are not married, then my friend, it’s never too late to start preparing for it.

It took me a while to make this publish after the last one in late September. I had to give time to settle some things in the family. I’m glad all is good now.

Thanks for always being there. You all are family to me.

Leave your comments below.



Author: Rotimi Elijah

Rotimi Elijah likes to motivate and inspire people. He likes to be among happy people who loves unconditionally. He believes that love is the basis to true happiness.

61 thoughts on “7 Basics of a Happy Marriage”

  1. Im glad you were able to publish this. You made really good points in helping us when it comes to our marriage. Thanks so much for sharing this! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. All human beings have a kind of trinity in each of their lives- public, private and secret. In marriage your partner knows all of your public and private life. The realm of secrecy is a different kettle of fish. The “privacy” advice is the one I find very interesting. I always thought each of the couple was giving up their “privacy” in exchange for the love of the other.

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  3. Everything you stated is spot on! Iโ€™ve been married for nearly 12 years now and Iโ€™ve found that the Bibleโ€™s advice provides a solid foundation for a happy marriage. One article stated, โ€œDo not expect perfection of yourself or of your mate. (Psalm 103:14; James 3:2) Choose to focus on your mateโ€™s good qualities. Be confident that Bible principles will work, and be patient. (2 Timothy 3:16) Jehovah will reward your efforts to follow his advice, and your marriage will become stronger year by year.โ€”Galatians 6:9.โ€ (www.JW.org). Learning how to love, how to be tenderly compassionate, patient, understanding and unselfish will truly bring lasting peace and joy.

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    1. I agree with every of your words. You’re absolutely right and the word of God is living and true. If we are patient enough to follow the principles, then all will be better.

      Thanks so much. Really appreciate your time and words. My best regards


  4. You know when You reading a post and enjoying every bit of the sentence to the next cause it makes so much sense and agree with every point? Yep this one was …I enjoyed reading. Now if only a lot relationships and marriages could adhere with all this…be a better world. Modern day relationships are overcomplicated for no reason at all

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    1. Really appreciate your true words and time. And Yes it will make lots of sense if relationships and marriages can adhere to them.

      We are the relationship and marriage, if we apply this basic principles and make them a lifestyle, just like you said, the world will be better.

      Thanks so much. My best regards.


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