A lot of people wants to say I do on that beautiful day but yet does not know what it means. Some have said it and still doesn’t know what it really means. The value and purpose of the word “I do” has almost been forgotten. People now prepare more for the wedding day than life after the wedding day. The word “I do” is now seen as ceremonial activity. People give little or no thought to it these days.
But my friend let me remind you of what you know…. The journey of the husband and wife starts on the day of the wedding. On that beautiful day, the couple seal the constitution that will guide them for the rest of their lives with a seal of “I do”. And according to the constitution once you say you do, you have to do, not turning to the right or left.
It’s a serious business and you’ve got to understand it. For every business there is a principle, once it is neglected the business is doom to fail. For every country or nation there is a constitution, once forgotten or neglected, there will be chaos.
Let me ask you…. When you say you do, what do you think you are actually saying? Does anyone have answers to that?…. OK…. Let me bring out a little out of the constitution. When you say you do, this is what you mean…
- I will love him/her for the rest of my life.
- Whatever happens we will always be together.
- I will not be selfish but share everything together.
- I will take him for who he is… I will take her for who she is.
Now my friend, that is just a little of what the word “I do” means. You’ve got to think before going to the court of marriage where you will say I do. The court of marriage can be your church, the court of law, the garden or any other place. Once you say it, there is no going back, you’ve got to stick to it, till death do you part.
… Saying you do means you are aware of all your spouse weaknesses and you are ready to live with it.
Many people don’t have deep understanding of this and that is why you see divorce and separation everywhere in the world. It is during relationship and courtship you know if you can live the rest of your life with your partner. It is the time you make corrections and amendments, first with yourself and then you make your partner see the reason for correction if there is need for it. It is when both parties are satisfied with one another, then they can seal their union by marriage.
But on the other hand, you know that he drinks too much, you’ve tried to Change him or make him see reason to change but nothing changes, why say I do? Or when he eyes every available girls around without remorse, or when she won’t listen to nobody but herself… “why say I do?” Once you say I do to these things, you have to do. You have to love him/her for all that.
So my friend, I believe you want a happy home free of divorce, separation and stress. You’ve got to ask yourself, can I say I do to my spouse? If yes and your spouse feel the same, you will be fine. But if no, then there is a problem. Don’t start what you can’t finish. And if you’re married, it’s never too late to make it right and be happy again. Put yourself together and make things right with your spouse and family. Life without happiness is hell on earth.
Thanks so much for your time. Glad to spend time with you.