#12. Do More than Forgive, Forget.

Life can be full of pain. Life can be full of people that hurts. The most annoying part is that, the people that hurts you sometimes are those ones close to you. How do you do when your loved ones deeply hurt you? When they truly break your heart and choose not to care? To be honest, it’s a very hard situation to deal with.

… Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does change the future.

I have been hurt, in this life, the ones that hurt me the most are the ones that are close to me. My heart has been broken by loved ones a lot. But still here I am bouncing for greatness because i believe it doesn’t make any sense if people hurt me and I hurt myself more in return… I have to move, no one dictates my happiness but me. I not only forgive, I forget. Holding to the past and the hurts will only drag me down.

This is my little experience in life and I hope it will help someone to move on in life holding no grudges but choosing to fly in happiness…..

… Holding a grudge doesn’t make you strong, it makes you bitter. Forgiving doesn’t make you weak, it sets you free.

Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. When you forgive, forget as well because it brings true liberation. The truth is that, the weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attributes of the strong. When you keep malice and grudges, don’t see yourself as Strong, you are weak. Don’t let emotions control you.

… There is no Love without forgiveness and there is no forgiveness without Love.

Even in relationships, marriages and family life we gets hurt. We need to truly forgive, forget and move on for peace and happiness to reign. It’s not easy, yes… But it worth it. If you hurt your love ones, apologize sincerely, let nothing ruin the love among you. Forgive and Forget.

Thanks, you all have been inspiring. Enjoy the rest of the season.

Up next is daily dose #13, #14, #15, & #16 altogether.


Author: Rotimi Elijah

Rotimi Elijah likes to motivate and inspire people. He likes to be among happy people who loves unconditionally. He believes that love is the basis to true happiness.

44 thoughts on “#12. Do More than Forgive, Forget.”

  1. Being able to forgive, which has been such a process to me, has led to great healing. I cannot get back what that person took from me, I can only forgive and trust God to restore to me what was lost.

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  2. Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotionsโ€ฆso itโ€™s good to forgive and forget.

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    1. Hmm…. Great thoughts from you Sylvie. Inner peace. I like that. When you have that inner peace. You can still remember the issue, extract some lessons from it and still not feel the pain no more, because you have let go.

      Thanks Sylvie. Enjoy the rest of the day


    1. Forgetting is letting go in peace. Of course one will remember the lesson learned from it. But when we remember it will be in a state of peace not pain of d issue. Forgetting flush out the pain and still allow us to access the lesson learned.

      Thanks Ortensia. Glad to hear you

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  3. Forgiving is hard for me, but itโ€™s useless to hold grudges if we want to be serene, but forgetting… I am not sure.. remembering keeps us from falling into the same trap again and again…

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    1. When we say forgive and forget, we are saying that you will forgive then forget as in totally letting go, not holding anything against the offender, being free again. But of course you will remember the lesson it taught you, and when you remember, it will be in peace because u have released the whole issue. Then we can use our experience to help ourselves more and others.

      Thanks for such great comment.

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    1. Yes… Yes… It does… Totally in agreement to that, without question. But it is necessary to be done, either we like it or not, it’s for our own good. For us to live in peace, harmony, love, and good health, it must be done.

      When we forgive and forget we are free from compounding our hearts with things that weigh it down. Many years ago I was hurt, so hurt that each I think of it, I feel the pain a fresh. But I was not happy, I started living in anger, I was affected in many ways not until i choose to let go totally. I make peace first with myself, then with the ones that hurt me, now either they make peace with me genuinely or not, is not my concern, my concern is I choose to forgive and forget as it seems the only way to be free again.

      I have learn this in life… It is hard, but it also worth. It’s necessary for victorious living. Thanks so much.

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    1. Yes Ben. Your words are true. Glad to hear it. It can be hard indeed, but we must. I remembered when I was hurt by one of my love ones… It took me about 1-2 years to come back to myself… I was hurt, but at the long run, I have to move on to truly be happy.

      Thanks a lot. Do enjoy the weekend


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