Give Up or Stay

Sometimes it’s good to know when things are truly dead. As much as I believe in fighting for what you believe in, sometimes letting go is the only way forward.

… Some people are so stiff-necked that they don’t want to learn, improve, get better or give concern about others but themselves… Flee from them.

When you have gotten to the stage whereby there is no more positive signs, when things are been subtracted from you often, when your care and concern doesn’t mean a thing again… Its time to move.

I don’t advice divorce but will someone stay in a marriage that will kill him or her? Many people have gone to the grave too soon in life because of marriages and relationships that suck life out of them.

… When someone have a wrong attitude towards life, struggle in relationship is certain.

We don’t have a double or triple life. We are not in a video game where one can have a second or third chance to life. It’s just once and if we live it right, once is enough. It’s important to know when to give up if things are at the point of no return. Don’t suffer for nothing. Don’t accept the pain and says that’s how life want it. No, the ball is in your court.

If things are not as bad, then it’s time to sit down with your spouse and communicate about how to proceed. You guys don’t want to waste a lifetime on having issues every now and then. If things can be resolve, then I advice stay. No one knows the truth about your inner life, relationship or marriage like you do. So take responsibility.

… Always remember that without mutual understanding, no relationship can work.

Today marks one year I started this blog. I am so glad for such a wonderful people I have met so far. You all are family and I can’t trade you guys for anything in the world.

Happy one year Anniversary to Realtimelove – Inspire me. I love you all.

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The Struggle of Love

The struggle of Love. Love is all good and beautiful but now it is also use for the means of other agenda. People now show love mostly to get one thing or the other. I look around and begin to think… Where is true Love? Why is there so much deceit in love? Why is there no honesty in the matters of love? Why do people use love to take advantage of others? Why has people turn love to self affairs where they think only about themselves?

People now love mostly when there is a benefit to derive. If I can’t get something from you then why should you be in my life, that’s now the other of the day in today’s world. People are suffering and dying because Love is struggling to survive. Love is no more thriving but striving. This issue is now a global one and can only be address in units, as in individually.

… Where there is true love, there is life.

When spouse to spouse are not true to themselves anymore majorly because of personal interest and gain. Marriages are now going through all kinds of stress because husband or wife or both are now getting attracted to personal gain. Families are having crisis because members of the family love only from the face and not the heart. Love is now a mere word to most people, the action behind it is forgotten.

From leaders to politicians to business owners, even religious leaders, Love is struggling. Most of these people just want to be in power not that the love they profess is true. People now say one thing but meant another thing. How can this world survive in this manner? How can relationships, marriages, families, businesses survive in this manner?

… To love is something, to be loved is something but to love and be loved is everything.

The problem of this world starts with individuals not government or certain establishment. How can someone who is not truthful to his/her spouse, children or family be truthful to anyone else in the world.

There’s only one way this terrible system can change, and its through you and I. To live in the right meaning of love. Love is truthful and plain. There is no hide and seek in love. It’s always open. Why should you lie or deceive the one you love, that is no love, it’s murder.

We can’t change everyone but we can change ourselves. Let love thrive through you, your relationship, marriage, family and business, in that way, love will flow and connect us all back to the origin where love never fails.

I don’t want to be one of the problems of this world, this is our home and I want to enjoy it. I believe it’s the same with you. So, I’m going to let Love thrive from me to my family and the world. We should all do that.

Thanks my dear friends. It’s time to end the struggles of Love.

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Self discipline – A bridge to Greatness

At the heart of any successful person, is self-discipline. Whether it’s success in their personal lives or their professional lives, self-discipline is key to success in everything. There is a price to everything in life and self-discipline is one big price that will get you what you want.

Theodore Roosevelt once said, “With self- discipline most anything is possible.” Jim Rohn claimed “Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” And Robert Kiyosaki asserted that “Confidence comes from discipline and training.”

Self-discipline can likened to a bag package needed to go on a trip. In that bag, everything needed for the trip will be there. Self-discipline carries essential things we need to succeed in life. In our love relationship, personal relationships with people, business or career, goals and desires, self-discipline is the bridge to success.

Self-discipline is what makes you do right instead of wrong, it’s what makes you stand firm even when there are lots of temptations. Inside self-discipline there is hard work, commitment, determination, endurance, self-control, respect, honesty and many more life changing attributes.

If self-discipline is lacking in ones life, motivations and inspirations can be useless. Self-discipline fuels your energy to act on the inspiration you receive. When you have a goal to achieve, you will know that there are things to be done to get to the goal. Many at times we let go on goals that would have make us great in life because we feel tired, lazy or lost. When there is self-discipline, it fuels you to keep going until you achieve your dreams.

… I think self-discipline is something, it’s like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it gets. – Daniel Goldstein

Like I use to say, nothing good comes easy and for every great life, there is a great challenge. So, self-discipline is a key player in all this. Right from the beginning of the world there have been people who through self-discipline enjoy the best out of life. In our world today, many are living their dream because of self-discipline. To be great, you must have the will to be.

Successful people in every field are often said to be “blessed with talent” or even just lucky. But the truth is, many worked harder than the average person can even imagine. From athletes like Michael Jordan, also Cristiano Ronaldo to executives like Howard Schultz, these people are known for waking up early and working toward a goal while other people are still in bed, and staying later than everyone else too.

All this might not sound new but as old as it is, it’s still taking people to greater heights in life. I will make it as simple as this… Get self-discipline, get greatness.

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Anger – A course of Destruction

Anger is a human emotion which is said to be good sometimes but can be destructive when it is expressed excessively or when it gets out of control. The truth of the matter is that, most times, anger usually gets out of hand. People often fail in controlling or taming their anger. Anger does more harm than good. It’s a major cause of problem in our world.

… Anger is one letter short of danger.

We are living in a time where a lot things can easily turn you off and set you on anger mode but as true as that might sound it doesn’t justify the expression of destructive anger. If you and I are to look at how things are in this world, we will keep hurting till life will be drained from us. When things happen and you get angry it actually add to the problem.

… Anger doesn’t solve anything, it builds nothing but can destroy everything.

An angry person can never think straight. Most of the things that comes to mind is usually negative. When anger is in action, destruction fills the air. Anger leads to rage and it does nothing but destruction. Anger clouds your judgement and put you in a position to hurt and be hurt.

… Ralph Waldo Emerson said… For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.

Anger causes problem for us both on the inside and on the outside. It affects our well being. It has adverse effects on our health. A lot of people around the world have been destroy because of anger. A lot of businesses, families, marriages, relationships, friendships e.t.c has been put to an end because of anger issue. Too many people have lost lives and properties because of anger.

… Anger brings pain. Where there is anger, there is pain underneath.

Anger takes away happiness. It brings different types of negative feelings or emotions that not only put the bearer in pain but also hurt people or things around. Anger is as old as life, we know the outcome but yet many still fall a victim of it. Anyone that wants peace of mind and want to enjoy a good relationship, marriage, family, career or business should never indulge in anger.

… Maya Angelou said, bitterness is a cancer. It eats upon is host. But anger is like fire, it burns it all.

Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge in these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you. Always put in a thought or two before expressing a feeling or emotion.

I have seen anger in display many times and the outcome is always bad. I use to have anger issues many years back and until I realized that anger does nothing but harm me more, I do away with it totally. Now, anger is the last thing that comes to mind, I learn to have control over my emotions. I’m sure you have seen anger being displayed on one or two occasions, it can be a terrible thing.

Always remember love does not entails anger. Love does not destroy. It gives life, it saves.

Thanks for your time. Have a blossom week.

Beyond all Relationships

Relationship is supposed to bring happiness but is it actually like that. Many at times, we are the enemy of our own selves. Often times we let things we can control have control over us. For example… You know quite alright that staying angry doesn’t change a thing but still you stay angry whereby things get out of hand. You have control but choose to be controlled.

Life, as wonderful and beautiful is… It is also short. Remember, one time you were 10 years old, now you know your age, before you know what’s happening, you will clock 65 and above. You and I don’t have the luxury of wasting a bit out of life. This is more reason why I have to share this poem with you.

… Life is designed for us to enjoy every moment with everyone around us.

… This poem is beyond all relationships

When I’m dead
Your tears will flow
But I won’t know
Cry with me now instead!

You will send flowers
But I won’t see
Send them now instead

You’ll say words of praise
But I won’t hear
Praise me now instead

You’ll forget my faults
But I won’t know
Forget them now, instead!

You’ll miss me then
But I won’t feel
Miss me now, instead!

You’ll wish
You could have spent more time with me
Spend it now instead!

You’ll wish
You could have spent all your money on me or with me
Spend now instead!

When you hear I’m gone, you’ll find your way to my house to pay condolence but we haven’t even spoken in years
Please look for me now!

Spend time with every person around you, and help them with whatever you have to make them happy!! your wife, husband or children, families, friends or acquaintance

Make them feel Special. Because you never know when time will take them away from you forever’

Love all and Forgive all.

This poem explain more on what we should be doing in life. Yes I agree… Sometimes people can be annoying, they can act in an unreasonable way towards you, maybe neglect you or do one thing to hurt you… I understand all that, it might not be so easy to forgive and forget but believe me, doing all that, carrying all that at heart will rob you of the very essence of life which is to be truly happy.

… Nothing brings more happiness than to live in peace with everyone.

You gain more by letting go than holding on. Like it is said… The past cannot be altered. It is gone. Now it makes no sense in using the past to destroy the present time and future.

We don’t have eternity here on earth and our life is not infinite here, so why waste it on grudges, anger, sadness, selfishness, and other stuff that makes no sense. Go, live a better life, enjoy your relationship with everyone in your life.

Life is short.

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Assumptions kills Relationship

Assumption is deadly, like someone said, it is the mother of all screw-ups and mistakes. Some weeks back l learned how assumption ruins a marriage totally. Acting on things without having proof or fact is a cause of problem in relationships, marriages and even families around the world. It also extend to our career. Assumption can ruin someone’s career.

Assumption is said to be termites of relationship, it feeds on the relationship gradually until nothing is left. When one or both parties in a relationship indulge in assumption, there will be endless problem. Assumption does not only kill the relationship, it also hurt the heart of the person indulging in it.

Don’t just assume you know and start acting up on the other person. Most of the things we assume are sometimes wrong and most times, when we realize this, it’s often too late, a lot of words would have been spoken, a lot of things would have been done, someone might have been hurt.

When there’s a problem or you sense things that are unusual in your relationship or marriage or family, don’t let your mind start running round, don’t start cooking things up in your mind, don’t start assuming things… The best thing to do is to open up, ask, talk and communicate. You will discover that it is not as bad as you think or might not even be close to what you think.

… Assumptions turns heart against each other in a relationship.

Some people live on the assumption that their partner should know what they expect in a relationship… that is ridiculous. That kind of assumption will cause the bearer more pain when the expectations are not met and will cause the partner unexplainable pain because there’s no proper communication and agreement.

… A relationship is not based on assumption, it is based on communication.

In relationships, it is best to assume nothing. Assumption starts unnecessary drama. Once you assume one thing, it leads to another and another and like that until your heart is full of anger, resentment, pain, sadness and all kind of things that can make life unbearable. This things makes us act in strange ways.

Many of us have once being victims of assumption either now or in the past. A lot of relationships out there have come to an end because of this little fact. Some people make assumptions about their partner based on their past experience with someone else, this act will send your relationship to early grave.

Don’t just assume things are ok, they might not, your relationship or marriage might be dying underneath. Be sure, talk, communicate and act in love. Do not let assumption have a room in your heart or home.

Back to what I learned some weeks back…

it’s about a woman who assumed her husband is cheating on her not knowing it’s not so, because she refused to listen find the truth, she drives her man crazy until the health of the man became so bad. By the time she realized her assumptions was wrong, it was too late. She lost her husband to death and lost everything.

Assumption can be said to be the beginning of evil in a relationship… Don’t allow it.

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Stones or Diamond

It’s been like two months since I last posted an article. I want to appreciate everyone for always checking on me. You guys are too much… Thanks a million. In the couple of months I have been away, I saw things that really touched my heart and I’m going to share it with you all.

We all know what stones are… We have different types of stones, some are jewel, gem, they are so precious and of great value and they can’t be found just anywhere or anyhow.

Flow with me… I’m arriving at a point…

… A normal stone needs little to no care but a gemstone like diamond needs every attention.

The other type of stones are the normal one, the one we see everyday on the street. You can kick them if you like or play with them… Yes they have value too and also important but can never be compared to a gemstone like diamond.

Now… Here is where I’m driving at…

I sat down in my room couple of months back and I looked around me and ask why people are suffering emotionally? Why does happiness look so far from people? Then the word stones and diamond dropped into my heart.

We humans are like normal stones and gemstone like diamond. Whichever you are is the value you carry and whichever you allowed into your life will show how great your life will turn.

… Many people out there use their energy on picking stones and neglecting a diamond even when sited.

Most people are married to the wrong people… Some people have diamond but loose them to have a stone… Some have diamond but still chase after stones… Some end up with stones and now looking up and down for a diamond.

This is more reason why people cannot find satisfaction and happiness seems lacking without satisfaction. There is a right person for everyone and that right person is the diamond. Many loose the right person to the wrong one. This happens because many do not know who they are and what they actually want.

Some are dating the wrong person now, some just let the right person slip away, some are about to marry the wrong person, some settle for the wrong person because they believe they have no choice.

… The quality of your life depends a lot on whom you marry.

Now… If you are married and you find yourself in this situation, you don’t have to beat yourself up, there is a way you can find happiness. Acceptance is the key to happiness. Accept it and things will turn brighter. Remember stones have value too, bring out the best in what you have.

And if you are not married… Good for you. Be sure of what you’re doing. Don’t chase stone and overlook a diamond. If it’s wrong it can never be right.

And to those who married to the right person or in a relationship with the right person… You guys are set of diamonds together… Keep shining. I have my diamond and I hope you too have. Tell your spouse you are my diamond.

Good to be back. Thanks to you all… You are family to me.

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Enjoying your time with your Partner

The main reason for having a partner is for happiness, love and good life among other good reasons too. There’s no point in having a partner who you don’t feel connected to or who don’t feel alive with. Be it courtship, dating, or marriage relationship everyone wants to enjoy each and every minute spend with their partner.

Being with someone you love, who also loves you back is a beautiful thing. You feel like a king and queen of your world. The world looks beautiful to you and you see reason to live. But there are things that makes the beauty of relationship last. Here are some point I think you can relate with….

  • Support each other’s work – help each other wherever possible, but not with criticism or judgment.
  • Take walks together regularly – this promotes a healthy body and healthy communication.
  • Taking dancing lessons together is not only fun and intimate, it will ultimately lead to the two of you feeling electrified.

… Enjoy the quality time with your partner because it is the memory you will share tomorrow. Create a good memory of each other

  • Tell him/her that he/she makes you a better person. And then tell him/her how.
  • Tell your partner what you find attractive in him/her – list all the qualities that you love
  • Think of a piece of food that he/she likes but is difficult to find and order it online or from a restaurant.
  • Try new things together – familiarity breeds contempt, so break out of old ruts and habits.
  • Use a toothpick to write “I love you” on the outside of an unpeeled banana. It’ll turn dark in a few hours and your partner will be able to see it.
  • Use words of encouragement – don’t belittle or put your partner down.
  • Value your partner above everyone else and make sure he/she knows how you feel.

… Life is short, live it well, be happy, catch some fun and stay out of trouble.

  • Wear things your partner likes – this will make your partner feel the need to be intimate and responsive.
  • Write erotic fiction for each other. Pick something you’ve done together and recreate it in words.
  • Stage an impromptu wrestling match and see who would come out tops – be careful to be gentle on each other!
  • Think about a time when something went wrong between the two of you.Then talk to your partner about it, starting with what you could have done differently.

My partner means the world to me. I’m sure it’s the same with you. Thanks for your time.


#12. Do More than Forgive, Forget.

Life can be full of pain. Life can be full of people that hurts. The most annoying part is that, the people that hurts you sometimes are those ones close to you. How do you do when your loved ones deeply hurt you? When they truly break your heart and choose not to care? To be honest, it’s a very hard situation to deal with.

… Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does change the future.

I have been hurt, in this life, the ones that hurt me the most are the ones that are close to me. My heart has been broken by loved ones a lot. But still here I am bouncing for greatness because i believe it doesn’t make any sense if people hurt me and I hurt myself more in return… I have to move, no one dictates my happiness but me. I not only forgive, I forget. Holding to the past and the hurts will only drag me down.

This is my little experience in life and I hope it will help someone to move on in life holding no grudges but choosing to fly in happiness…..

… Holding a grudge doesn’t make you strong, it makes you bitter. Forgiving doesn’t make you weak, it sets you free.

Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. When you forgive, forget as well because it brings true liberation. The truth is that, the weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attributes of the strong. When you keep malice and grudges, don’t see yourself as Strong, you are weak. Don’t let emotions control you.

… There is no Love without forgiveness and there is no forgiveness without Love.

Even in relationships, marriages and family life we gets hurt. We need to truly forgive, forget and move on for peace and happiness to reign. It’s not easy, yes… But it worth it. If you hurt your love ones, apologize sincerely, let nothing ruin the love among you. Forgive and Forget.

Thanks, you all have been inspiring. Enjoy the rest of the season.

Up next is daily dose #13, #14, #15, & #16 altogether.

#4. Do More than Talk, Communicate.

Most people talk, but they don’t communicate. When the other person is not reading meaning to whatever you are saying, or not paying attention to you, there is no communication. If the understanding of what you are saying is not getting to the receiver, then, you are just talking, there’s no communication.

When two or more souls are blessed to be in the presence of each other, the greatest service they can offer one another is communication. Communication is more than just talking!Communication Is interaction between two or more people that serve a higher purpose. Communication is a process of ingesting, digesting, absorbing one another’s thoughts and feelings.

… The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said. – Peter Drucker

Have you ever tried communicating with someone? Really communicating. Trying to share your heart,on a really deep level only to come away disappointed time after time…. Yes, I believe it has happened to us all. Honest, open, heart felt communication is one of the greatest gifts we can offer ourselves. It’s an act that grows love. Many suffer in their relationships and other aspects of life due to inability to communicate.

… “Constantly talking isn’t necessarily communicating.” ― Charlie Kaufman

Communication is key to life. The only way to get healing in relationships, healing for yourself and evolving with others is through the process of communication. Do not leave yourself or the other person hanging, do more than talk, communicate.

Thanks for your time. It’s always good to be with you all.

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